People who say nothing in arguments and process everything later aren’t conflict-avoidant, they figured out that anything said in real time gets weaponized and...
The Silent Strategy: Understanding the Quiet in Conflict
Maya sat across from her partner during a Sunday afternoon argument about something neither of them would...
The person who texts back instantly but takes weeks to respond when the message is emotional isn’t always inconsistent — they may have automated...
Understanding the Divide Between Quick Replies and Emotional Silence
The conventional interpretation of someone who quickly responds to work-related messages but leaves heartfelt texts unread...
I noticed last winter that I have been answering ‘how are you’ with ‘busy’ for twenty years, and busy was just the word I...
The word busy: A social technology of evasion and status
Over the past twenty years, the word busy has emerged as one of the most...
Quote by Carl Jung: Loneliness does not come from having no people around you, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem...
When Loneliness Strikes Despite Company
Look, I noticed it last Tuesday. I’d been at a long lunch with three people I genuinely like, walked back...
People who reread their own messages after sending them aren’t always insecure — they may be running a final check on whether the version...
Rereading Your Messages: More Than Just Insecurity
Rereading your own messages after sending them is not automatically a sign of insecurity. Sometimes it is simply...